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How to Use Stillness to Achieve Greatness | Ryan Holiday on Conversations with Tom



Welcome to the third episode of Conversations with Tom, with guest Ryan Holiday. This episode again shows an unfiltered, unedited, free-wheeling conversation between two thinkers who discuss their grandest dreams, their deepest fears, and their own sometimes self-contradictory beliefs. Listen as Tom Bilyeu and Ryan Holiday riff on everything from a broken piece of an old tombstone to the Cuban Missile Crisis, and discuss ideas ranging from stoicism to profit maximization. Nothing is off-limits on Conversations with Tom, so enjoy the intellectual ride!

SHOW NOTES:

Tom is concerned that he is violating the rule to only do one thing [1:23]
Tom and Ryan discuss going where the heart goes but also making a profit [4:13]
Tom and Ryan talk about Lance Armstrong and following your own principles [6:59]
“Do people I respect really get a lot out of the book?” [9:59]
What is the relationship between stillness and obsession? [11:12]
Ryan talks about the dangers of survivorship bias and only looking at who succeeds [15:11]
Tom riffs on the need to access dark side emotional energy [18:10]
Ryan talks about death [26:47]
Tom talks about potential immortality [32:26]
Ryan discusses the relationship between accepting death and accomplishing greatness [35:04]
Different situations call for solutions [39:05]
Ryan attempts to define perspective [41:58]
Tom talks about changing your brain chemistry to change what drives you [45:25]
“You can’t teach YOUR old dog new tricks.” [48:44]
Ryan and Tom discuss how to create momentum [50:22]
Ryan and Tom discuss how to reach your real potential [53:20]
How malleable are people? [59:29]
Nobody expected Tom to succeed [1:02:02]
Tom describes his fear that people turn off empowering messages if they smell BS [1:04:29]
Tom and Ryan ask how to balance big goals and personal relationships [1:08:29]
What is stillness and why does it matter? [1:17:46]
Ryan illustrates stillness with the story of the Cuban missile crisis [1:21:52]
Ryan explains how to cultivate stillness [1:31:23]
Ryan and Tom discuss going to therapy [1:34:00]
Tom talks about what he wishes he had gotten as a kid [1:37:56]
Tom talks about people he loves that seem absolutely stuck [1:43:38]
Progress depends on the irrational man [1:46:29]
Ryan discusses what he hopes people get from his book [1:50:02]
Tom asks how to step outside the limits of accepted beliefs [1:54:16]
Ryan discusses the connections between stillness, enlightenment and fulfillment [1:58:01]
Ryan and Tom discuss the dangers of new tech and social media [2:01:26]
Tom talks about his history with drugs and alcohol [2:06:00]
Ryan and Tom discuss meditation [2:09:08]

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Tada
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Tada

Tom you ask such good questions. Therapy related questions were amazing…gonna play on repeat until this sinks in.

Starla Hall
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Starla Hall

re. dad tomb stone, I was homeless for a long time, while my dad watched as a guardian angel, and my heavenly father. I walked at this park and found a pink feather (not bird). It meant so much to me. I found later that when you find a feather and angel is nearby and I knew it! Since then I've found an orange one. I have another story about a Buck deer crossing my path. When we are down and out, the spiritual gifts are heightened and even better than material.

Zachary Tyler
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Zachary Tyler

Love this man

nothingness
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nothingness

I don't understand what the fuck u were talking at the end of this talk

Gigi Sriamdi
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Gigi Sriamdi

Tom pays attention to spiritual content .. your contribution is profoundly.

Ahren Haedrich
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Ahren Haedrich

I want to see Ryan Holiday and Jason Silva discuss Psychedelics.

Fred Howland
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Fred Howland

Tom talked WAY too much about himself. Bad interview.

ShVonne Burke
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ShVonne Burke

Unfortunately, we can’t discount not being pushed by others (whether it’s our parents or friends or anyone else) because they themselves didn’t know how to push us. They themselves did not understand that the sky is the limit, or that there was no limit. Sometimes, parents just think that they’re doing the best or the right thing; or they too are overcoming, still, childhood or some trauma in life. And that’s why, the mindset, “this has happened, and now what do I do with it,” has to be the mindset. #shithappens and sometimes we won’t get the true answers why.

ShVonne Burke
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ShVonne Burke

…And Kennedy had Addison’s Disease 🤔

Alexander Berhane
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Alexander Berhane

These 2 hours and 11 minutes felt more like 20 minutes.

Green Spider
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Green Spider

The first time I experienced true stillness is when I watched Kyle Cease, Evolve Out Load. You just sit and connect with your heart. It’s something that we intuitively know how to do, but never think to do it that way. Just sit and connect with the heart. You don’t think about your heart, but it just happens. Changed my life forever. I do it all the time now and it’s like life power is carrying me and perspective shifted to all is amazing and well. My mind keeps shifting from something is bad to I’m being carried. It’s amazing!… Read more »

ROROSMACHINE
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ROROSMACHINE

Lyndon Baines Johnson was a true sociopath/psychopath who like most go to extremes in order to hide their true nature..Instrumental in at least 11 political assassinations including JFK (with help and coordination from the CIA as well as rogue elements in other agencies including> Edward A. Clarke/ Malcolm Wallace/J.Edgar Hoover/ Ed Landsdale/ John A. McCone/ Howard Hunt etc.etc the list is extensive..

Ahmed ally
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Ahmed ally
GodsHalo'
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GodsHalo'

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Abdul-Rahman El-Tohfa
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Abdul-Rahman El-Tohfa

Of course Mary peace be upon her was virgin. The birth was a miracle like the description of Human Embryology in the Quran from 14 hundreds years ago and many other scientific miracles in the Quran.

Illi Popovic
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Illi Popovic

This is so very true‼️‼️‼️ When I was 9-10 years old I had Doctors telling my dear mom that I will be crippled by the age of 40 cause I had severe pains in my wrist. My response was No I won’t ! It turns out I had growing pains cause I was tall for my age and they mistook my pains for rheumatism. Lol. Doctors don’t always know what they are talking about and I’m so glad I had the six science knowing better then to believe nonsense. I’m after 50 now and it’s all about nutrition and exercise.

Queen Butterfly
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Queen Butterfly

looks like he is talking to himself

Mirage Black TV Series
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Mirage Black TV Series

This guy is depressing… #Morbid

humanyoda
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humanyoda

If Tom doesn't change his lifestyle by calming down, I am convinced that he not only won't live forever, but he will croak before he is 60. Will probably die of cancer, heart disease or stroke. And his life will be an example of how NOT to live. His neurotic thoughts will drive him into his grave. That will be a sad event.

humanyoda
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humanyoda

If Tom doesn't change his lifestyle by calming down, I am convinced that he not only won't live forever, but he will croak before he is 60. Will probably die of cancer, heart disease or stroke. And his life will be an example of how NOT to live. His neurotic thoughts will drive him into his grave. That will be a sad event.

Marie
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Marie

Crazy meets crazier.

SuperXrunner
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SuperXrunner

Ok till about 46mins…

CAMILLE ROSE
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CAMILLE ROSE

Good talk Gentlemen~ it’s nice to feel like I’m listening to friends being candid.
Moreover in a society that can’t sit still and gets off on the misfortune of “multi tasking” whose to say “laying on the couch” isn’t another form of resting and or self preservation?
U can be busy and still BE wasting your life. Perhaps dying is more “of the flesh” than of the spirit. I like to think enlightened minds transcend time.

William Williams
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William Williams

Lance if u research a bit apparently was a tyrant. He hurt many people not just team riders he forced to do drugs. The drugs he cheated with are 2ndary although he stole the crowning achievement of honest competitors lives.

Andesonic
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Andesonic

"fucking employees "

dreambuilderny
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dreambuilderny

It seems to me that using anger as a tool (which I have done countless times) is the same thing as using a drug. You are ultimately giving your power away and while it may feel useful in the moment, you eventually feel worse AND need more of that tool to have the same effect.